Achieve the Dream: The Power of Intention and New Rules of Goal Setting – Part 1

How to achieve dreams is the best way for me to explain what this series is going to reveal.

And I say ‘reveal’ because this is going to be a very different way for you to look at the notion of obtaining the things you want in life; perhaps even more so, the life you truly want to live.

But I will place my cautionary facts up front… This has nothing to do with traditional ‘Goal Setting’.

In fact, I want to tell you why I stopped setting goals about 10 years ago and how much success I have experienced because of that reality ever since. The common ostensible measurements of success (money, freedom and career satisfaction) as well as the intangible definitions of that word (life fulfillment, supreme happiness and complete peace).

I suppose my story starts with an eye-opening moment I experienced about a decade ago… That the act of both creating and pursuing goals was becoming a rather large, rather ominous burden for me to carry.

It just didn’t feel good.

And as I will explain more fully within the scope of this week’s series, ‘feeling good’ is one of those things that has become an intimately important part of my own personal success habits (much more on that later).

I, perhaps just like you, was taught to decide what I wanted, create an action plan to get from where I was to where I wanted to be, express a specific time frame within which my target would be secured and hone in on the actualization of my goal (thereby, the results being proof of my success).

The common acronym to follow being SMART:

Specific
Measureable
Attainable
Realistic
Timely

Where do you want to be in 1, 5 and 10 years?

What do you want have or be doing within those time frames?

How will you create a path to take you there?

Now, if you’ve had success with the standard aspects of goal setting, than there is a good chance that you’ve either stopped reading or are already preparing a retort to my thoughts even before I’ve had the opportunity to explain them fully.

But I’m going to begin discussing my points on how to achieve dreams by saying this –

I am not alone.

And I know that. So if you’ve ever found the nature of traditional goal setting to be a very frustrating exercise, allow me the ability to answer the three questions I just mentioned above on your behalf…

I don’t know.

I don’t know exactly what.

I don’t know exactly when.

I don’t know exactly how.

And perhaps most importantly in my life, ‘attainable’ and ‘realistic’ are quite relative (because I’m a dreamer and in that, find the idea of attainable and realistic to be less than my true capacity).

All I do know for certain is that I have a deep longing. A powerful emotion internally that compels me towards certain things. And it is only when I try to specify those things with a tangible measuring stick that they shift from feeling incredibly epic to unbearably overwhelming.

“I don’t know” – the three words I want to give you complete permission to enjoy saying.

Because in the realm of how to achieve dreams, ‘not knowing for certain’ can actually become your greatest asset and most powerful catalyst.

I know, very contradictory to what we’ve been taught to date.

But the rest of this series will provide a very different perspective for you; one that I have found to be highly successful in my life and entirely freeing…

And I hope the same for you.

For now, I leave you with these words to ponder:

Allow
Detach
Faith

How to achieve dreams in life is about to look a whole lot different.

Watch this very quick video for a few more key insights:

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Where do you see yourself in 5 years?  And what path are you starting to take to get there?  Let’s talk about it in the comments section below.  Just scroll down in leave your comments and I’ll be sure to add more to the conversation…

Ignore the Rules; Inspire the Extraordinary Within

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BG

Would you like more perspective on the power of LIVING, right now?  

Go watch this 14-minute short film and then get to living your dream:  Life By Numbers the Movie 

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8 Responses to Achieve the Dream: The Power of Intention and New Rules of Goal Setting – Part 1

  1. Adam Walker July 2, 2012 at 2:48 pm #

    This one really strikes a cord with me BG,

    As soon as I attach Attainable and Realistic to a “goal”

    It removes Motivation and Inspiration for me just as quick.

    When we spoke a year ago about the early FTR in Kentucky…

    “I don’t know” from you was refreshing, exciting and inspiring.

    Good work fella

    • Brian Grasso July 3, 2012 at 7:31 am #

      “I dont’ know how and I don’t know when”….

      My FAVORITE things to say in life!

      And yes, I’ve forever hated the ‘SMART’ acroymn for goal setting. Attainable and Realistic always removed the ‘dreamer’ aspect for me….

      Cheer, my brother. BG

  2. OmarB July 2, 2012 at 4:19 pm #

    In a previous post, you asked us to define success. I wrote a few things that would made me feel successful, but I think about one the most:

    Success to me means that I can wake up at whatever time I choose, and always be on MY schedule.

    I think the thing I hate most about corporate america is 9-5… I don’t see a point, I think its dumb, I think it makes you modify your life to fit your job… so no matter what would I do for a living, in 5 years I will be LIVING in my own schedule.

    What steps I’m taking? Discovering what I enjoy and what I’m passionate about. I believe that if I find something I enjoy and I’m good at, I could turn that into a side business BUT it doesn’t matter if its not profitable or I like to keep it as a hobby instead of a job, the important thing is to do things that are fun, right now is taking pictures =)

    Oh and also, in 5 years I want to live on the beach ;)

    • Brian Grasso July 3, 2012 at 7:34 am #

      Beautiful stuff, Omar! Just one thing to conisder…. 5 years.

      Time isn’t something we own or can control in any way. When the season is right, the intention will be manifested.

      I say that because focusing on time can dramatically alter our attention from where it should be: towards taking action on the things we can control.

      It may take 5 years. It may take 1. It may take 8.

      Reality is, you don’t know. So don’t bother with any attention towards it.

      There is a great peace in removing the need we have to measure success within a time frame and adopt the mentality of faith that the ‘universe’ will deliver when the season is right.

      I don’t know how and I don’t know when…. Again, the hallmarks of my Intention Crafting!

      <3 BG

      • OmarB July 3, 2012 at 9:39 am #

        I was talking this morning with my wife, she loves kids, she wants 4!! I told her I also want kids but I try to convince myself (and her sometimes) that I dont because I fear that once I have kids, I wont be able to accomplish some of my dreams.

        We want to wait another 4 years or so, and I thought… “I would have to make the first payment on our beach house on that time, because maybe after she’s pregnant all the money will go to the kids and the beach house may never happen, and then…” ok, I have to stop right there! take a deep breath and rephrase:

        I don’t know how and I don’t know when, but I will live on the beach =)

        And you are right, just by phrasing it that way takes the pressure off. “Reality is, you don’t know. So don’t bother with any attention towards it.”

        So true
        <3

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